Colleen’s Coffee Klatch: Erik Tyler, @BestAdviceSoFar

Hello everyone! Welcome to Colleen’s Coffee Klatch. Where I grew up, the Kaffee klatsch was all the rage. Folks (mostly women) would get together, share a cup of coffee, and catch up on their lives.

Before I go on, please know the Coffee Klatch posts have moved to my author blog HERE, but I’m posting on as well until I get my followers built up on Thanks for reading twice.

Thanks so much for stopping by to share a cup of coffee and a chat. Whenever I can, I like to reconnect with my favorite authors to catch up and see what’s new in their writing world.

This week I’m thrilled to introduce a new friend & author, Erik Tyler. I met him through his comments on another Coffee Klatch post. How cool is that?

Erik is an author, speaker, blogger, mentor, storyteller, facilitator, workshop leader, people lover, creative force, listener, conversationalist, unique-question-asker, chance-taker, noticer, and lover of life.

He lives in Massachusetts, in a town big enough to have a University yet small enough to have farms where you can get ice cream made with milk from the resident cows.

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Thanks for having me over, Colleen. The brilliant fall foliage season is underway here in New England. It’s this perfect little window of time, really. The days still hold warmth, and the evenings are cool without being cold. So the windows are always open, which I love. There’s this particular scent: dry leaves, distant fireplaces and… oh, that’s the coffee. Perfect addition!

Hi Eric. Here’s a cup to get you started. I want to talk about your book, “ALTERNATE REALITY: The Better Life You Could Be Living.” I was intrigued by the title.

Alternate Reality is my third book. Oddly enough, that wasn’t the plan. I was halfway into writing another book, which was slated to be my third. Then the pandemic hit, though I think that was just the proverbial last straw for many people.

I was suddenly inundated with calls, texts and emails—people from across a lifetime of mentoring who were stressed. Struggling. Worried. Lonely. Fearful. Panicked.


It was that last word that struck me and caused me to put a hold on the book I had been writing and to start a new project.

You see, for all the bad news going around, it was crystal clear to me that the lion’s share of the problem where hope was concerned wasn’t circumstances. It was perspective.

Enter Alternate Reality.

It’s about shifting our perspective—which is entirely within the realm of our own choice—instead of pouring all of our emotional resources into Sisyphean attempts to control our circumstances.

My books have always centered on two big themes: choice and kindness. But in writing Alternate Reality, I came to some new clarity about who I am as a writer and what sets me apart.

Again and again, readers express feeling like they’ve had a conversation with a friend instead of just having read another self-help book. I’m a mentor at heart, and conversations are at the core of effective mentoring. So I’ve recently started saying that my books put the personal in “personal development.”

I’m also a storyteller. Every concept in my writing springs from a story. People literally laugh, cry, cringe, hold their breath. Stories are powerful. They reduce complex concepts to simple images. So readers wind up thinking of “the flying piano” or “the drool kiss” or “the lip bug”—and they instantly remember the big central truth behind each story and how to put it into action when they need it most.

Lastly, I always include questions for self-reflection or group discussion after each chapter. This makes things extra personal. Readers start with my stories, but the questions help them focus on their own life story and how they will choose to write the next chapters of it.

Gosh, can you tell I’m a writer? Once you get me talking about this stuff, it’s hard to stop! Time for a sip of this coffee before it gets cold.

Well, Colleen, I hope your own reading of Alternate Reality came at just the right time, for where life has you right now. That’s always my hope for readers. And again, I can’t thank you enough for having me over today.

You’re so welcome, Erik. Thanks for stopping by to meet some new friends. I enjoyed your book, “ALTERNATE REALITY: The Better Life You Could Be Living.”

From the author of The Best Advice So Far and TRIED & (Still) TRUEAlternate Reality reads like fiction while diving into the real-life stuff that everyone ought to know—but few people ever talk about. This is not just another self-help or motivational book. It’s more like a private conversation with a trusted friend. It’s personal development designed to be… well, personal.

Regardless of what may be going on around you, there’s an alternate reality at your fingertips which you can choose to live in: one filled with hope, joy, purpose and real human connection.

You don’t need to “find happiness.” It isn’t hiding from you. It’s not a thing of the past. Happiness is very much a thing of the present—your present. You just need to retrain yourself to notice it.

Alternate Reality is a collection of personal stories, essays, practical advice, self-reflection exercises and hands-on experiments designed to reset your focus, allowing you to see clearly once again what is right with your life, the world and the people in it.

My Recommendation:

Alternate Reality is a book for anyone who is ready to change their current perspective on life. If you don’t like the way your life is going, maybe it’s time to recreate the best version of yourself. Why not? There is so much to be gained by a shift in how you perceive the world.

I wasn’t sure what I would find in a book titled “Alternate Reality.” I cringed, thinking about the idea of “alternative facts” which seemed to be all the rage over social media the last few years. Thankfully, I was in for a surprise. The writing is easy to read and by the end of the book, you’ll find a new friend in Erik Tyler.

Tyler offers straight, down-to-earth suggestions through a collection of his own stories, essays, and observations devised to make you think about how you can change your perspective to get more out of life. At the end of each chapter, he adds questions for discussion and self-reflection.

“I’m simply saying that I think we would all benefit from continually reminding ourselves that there are countless real and valid perspectives in the world other than our own.”

Tyler, Erik. ALTERNATE REALITY: The Better Life You Could Be Living (p. 17). Kindle Edition.

Tyler encourages us to reevaluate our self-focused perspective to that of an others-focused ethos. His philosophy is simple. We need “to treat people as people and not as obstacles, roles, props or background noise.” What a refreshing idea!

That’s just the beginning… there’s much more learned wisdom shared through this author’s experiences to help you reflect on where your life is at this moment in time. I especially liked the questions at the end of each chapter. They really make you think.

From Alternate Reality, I learned a few things about myself I hadn’t realized before. For example, I need to cultivate those times of quiet into my life. When I walk away from the computer and put away my phone, I find the greatest peace within myself. It’s all about choices and taking care of yourself. Now, I schedule this time on my calendar, because I find it so important.

Are you ready to let go of those negative emotions and make some new choices? Alternate Reality will help you on your own journey to becoming your best version of you.

⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

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26 thoughts on “Colleen’s Coffee Klatch: Erik Tyler, @BestAdviceSoFar

  1. I sure appreciate your kindness to this previous stranger, Colleen. This is, at core, what much of “Alternate Reality” is about: connection, positive social risks, and choosing to share where we can.

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    1. Looks like you’ve got plenty of energy yourself, Annette: “She sings, she writes, she mentors!” (We have a lot in common, though you’ve got me on the jewelry making.) Thanks for the encouragement and for sharing of yourself in so many ways with others.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and for taking the time to both read and reply, Toni. I hope even what you’ve read here in the post causes you to feel like there is still plenty of good in the world and to think something new (or maybe just remember something important that you’d forgotten for a while, which happens to me a lot).

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  2. Oh so loved this article Colleen… And as you know The Alternative Reality sounds right up my street.. I will definitely be looking it up to add to my reader collection…
    Thank you Erik for that wonderful chat.. And so agree..
    Happiness is a state of BE-ing… not externally found in others or Things…
    Sending you both well wishes for your day ❤

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    1. “State of BE-ing”—yes, Sue! One of the pieces of advice passed along to me by a wise older friend (now gone) is something I share in my first book, The Best Advice So Far: “If you are expecting someone else to make you happy, you never will be.” It’s one of the hardest for people to accept at first. Many want to argue with it before they’ve fully considered it. But those who’ve worked through it to the intended meaning have also found it to be one of the most freeing pieces of life advice; because placing our happiness in anyone else moves the responsibility for our happiness over to someone else’s choices (or to no one’s) instead of keeping it within the realm of our own choice.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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    1. I’ve actually taught many classes around these books, Craig. I’m continually getting copies into more libraries. And I’ve been a keynote speaker on the books’ topics at large universities. Of course, my personal mentoring is ongoing, which is a form of teaching as well. So while it’s not quite “in schools” yet, I 100% agree with you—and I’m trying my best to get it there!

      One thought for you, based on a quick peek at your bio (and website, which I just bookmarked): You’re not “just a fiction writer” (or “just” anything). You’re the only you the world has or will ever have. So you are a unique force. I suspect that you meant it tongue in cheek juxtaposed with “trying to reach the world”; all the same, I hope you’re focusing on the “reach the world” part more than the “just” part.

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    1. Shhh… don’t tell anyone, Eugenia, but I don’t actually drink coffee (though I love the smell and the warmth of it cupped in my hands on a cold day). So I’d be at our coffee klatch having that cup of tea right along with you.

      I do hope you’ll find yourself reading Alternate Reality over a cup of whatever feels right at the time, and feeling like you poured two cups (one for me, on the other side of the page).

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