Mindful Monday – Emotional Eating

Welcome to Mindful Monday! Each week I try to examine new or sometimes old things about myself. I have found that being mindful encompasses the act of being watchful, aware, wary, heedful, alert, careful, or attentive, in whatever area in my life I feel it applies to, as I attempt to live in the present. Come and join me on my journey. You never know what you will learn about yourself.

Everyone knows there is a distinct connection between stress and emotional eating. I can surely attest to succumbing to that effect the last couple of months. I noticed that as my stress levels rose I was turning more and more for solace through food. This does nothing for me except to increase my guilt because I am cheating and diverting from my food plan. This says nothing about how it affects my middle!

On Sunday, September 27, 2015, we witnessed a rare astrological event explained here by fellow blogger, Cherokee Billie:

“This is a powerful equalizing or neutralizing time, and as such is a good time to finally release things which have been a burden or stress in your life. This causes a temporary rebalancing for you at least for a couple weeks which can be a powerful time to start new projects or to finalize old ones you have been unable to bring a close to. The time is now!”

Cherokee Billie’s words really got me to thinking about new beginnings. I really feel the need to get my eating in check. The time is now and as I am writing this article I feel a surge of strength. Silver is getting her act together!

My journaling practice has been helping me to cope with my feelings of stress. Whenever I feel like life is spinning beyond my control (selling a home is never easy!) I have been writing about it. I decided to take this a step further and incorporated this journaling into my food diary.

As a life member of Weight Watchers, we were taught to journal our food daily. Our mantra is: “If we bite it, we must write it!”

I found a stenographer’s notebook that works perfectly for me. I divide the sheet into two days and add the date and number of Points Plus points I have to eat each day. I am following the plan as I did a couple years ago. Fruits and vegetables are zero points as long as you eat the correct portions. I use my measuring cups to measure the appropriate portions. As I eat it, I write down the items and subtract the Points Plus values. In addition, I keep track of the number of glasses of water (8 oz.) that I drink each day. I aim for 8 glasses to keep me hydrated and to flush food toxins out of my body.

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Now remember, this is how I do it. You may have a phone app that keeps track of your caloric intake, or some other way of tracking. The idea here is to keep track of what you are putting in your mouth. Make yourself accountable to yourself. This works for me. Do what works for you.

I also have started writing down what my triggers are. When do I feel the urge to eat? Lately, it has been in the evening. I have also found that if I have a cocktail or glass of wine I feel the urge to eat more. I think the alcohol takes away my inhibitions and I feel like I can cheat more! Another reason to watch what you are drinking is the Points Plus value of a 5 oz. glass of wine equals 5 points! Spirits are 4 Points Plus points per shot! When you only have so many Points to eat each day, you want to be careful how you are spending them.

Make sure to measure that wine: 5 oz. is much less than we realize!

Not long ago, I did a post about mindful eating, called “Eating Meditation.” I received an amazing Email from my friend, Christine and her blog, Before Sundown. I asked her if I could share her message with everyone and she agreed. Christine wrote:

“A Different Take on Food”

“There were times in earlier years from a teenager to my mid 40’s when I linked food to scary emotions; emotions of anger, abandonment, loss of control, and loneliness. Suffice to say it was a significant eating disorder. No need to elaborate, it’s long gone. What I can say in a few short paragraphs, how I maintained a healthy perspective on eating and food from then to now in my mid 70’s.

My different take on this food subject comes from changing my emotional brain’s link to food. It was sickening to give in to any one of the scary emotions and eat about it! It was exhausting to fight the battle between the emotional brain and the analytical brain with food in the middle.

As an older student, of the significant mid 40’s age, I remember the first healthy “thought” meal I ate at my university’s celebration dinner for Phi Beta Kappa recipients. The salad, baked chicken and vegetables acceptable to my analytical brain, but then came the dessert! Apple crumb cake with a dollop of whipped cream on top! I stared at it. You know which side was saying, “Go for it, you earned it.”

Lucky me, the analytical brain spoke up, “If you take a bite, you take responsibility for eating it, period. It’s not linked to any weird emotions (sweets always drove away scary emotions), and not even a reward for the award.”

That was the first baby step in healthy thought eating. Right then, I thought of nothing except I had a little stomach room left, and I ate half of it!”

Over the years I got better and better at having healthy thoughts about food with nutrition in mind, and whether my stomach was hungry, not my emotional brain.

It helped to find my voice and speak up, and to connect with good, fun-loving people. It’s a fact of life that not one of us will always be free of scary emotional thoughts. They do sneak in! The trick is to learn how to control them and not eat about them. For me, I’ll stick with the tried and true analytical brain to have the last word!

“Okay, Christine, you did well at breakfast with old-fashioned oatmeal and fresh berries. Now for lunch, how about a mozzarella cheese sandwich with a dollop of light mayo on gluten-free toast?”

Remember, don’t eat at the computer! Sit on the patio, enjoy the sunny day, or listen to the birds & the temple bell wind chimes. That’s getting close to Colleen’s Eating Meditation!  Right on, A-Brain!” ~ Christine

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After reading Christine’s encouraging words, I knew I needed to incorporate more meditation into my daily life to help heal my crazy eating habits. Does meditation really work in the battle against weight loss?

My investigation led me to an excellent article on WebMD called, “Does meditation help you lose weight?” by Jenn Horton and reviewed by Elizabeth Klodas, MD, FACC: (This is just an excerpt, you will want to read the whole article):

“Although there’s not a lot of research showing that meditation directly helps you lose weight, meditation does help you become more aware of your thoughts and actions, including those that relate to food.

For example, a research review showed that meditation can help with both binge eating and emotional eating.

“Any way to become more mindful will guide that process,” Perlman says.

How to Meditate

There are many ways to meditate. The CDC says that most types of meditation have these four things in common:

  • A quiet location. You can choose where to meditate — your favorite chair? On a walk? It’s up to you.
  • A specific comfortable posture, such as sitting, lying down, standing, or walking.
  • A focus of attention. You can focus on a word or phrase, your breath, or something else.
  • An open attitude. It’s normal to have other thoughts while you meditate. Try not to get too interested in those thoughts. Keep bringing your attention back to your breath, phrase, or whatever else it is you’re focusing on.

Pick the place, time, and method that you want to try. You can also take a class to learn the basics.”

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That’s it! This is my continuing journey into mindful eating and coping with my emotional attachments to food. I am learning to become more mindful of what my triggers are and how I deal with them. I am writing about my emotions and learning from my own feelings. I am following the path of a mindful eater. I feel empowered!

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Would you like to share your mindfulness journey with others? If you are interested in sharing your goals or aspirations, I want to highlight your journey here on Silver Threading. Please send me an email at silverthreading@gmail.com and I will be happy to feature you on a guest post.

Remember, this is not a challenge.  This is an offering of support.  If you would like to join in with your own Mindful Monday goals you can do so in the comments, or on a separate post of your own making.  If you want to link back to my post, please feel free to do so, however, it is not necessary.  My main aim here is to give and get support to become more mindful of the things I take for granted in my life.

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I wish you all much joy and peace this week!

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Now Accepting Submissions for issue #2 – Fear

Don’t forget to submit your artistic endeavors to Felan! Issue #2 is all about FEAR. ❤

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This issue will be guest judged by artist Jason Grim.

“My name is Jason Grim and I am an illustrator, graphic designer, and photographer based in Jacksonville, Florida. I graduated from the University of North Florida in 2013 with a Bachelors in Fine Arts. Photography was my main focus in college, but I am also self taught in digital illustration.

The artworks I create are inspired by cinema, literature, video games, the horror genre, and life events.”

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Silver’s Book Reviews – “Miedo – Living Beyond Childhood Fear,” by Kevin Cooper

  • Title:  Miedo – Living Beyond Childhood Fear
  • Author: Kevin Cooper
  • File Size: 386 KB
  • Print Length: 232 pages
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  • Publisher: Independent Publishing; 2 edition
  • Publication Date: May 25, 2014
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B00EVXZPI4
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  • Formats: Paperback and Kindle
  • Genres: Drama, Biography, Horror, Paranormal, Psychological Thriller

Miedo Living Beyond Childhood Fear

In Spanish, “Miedo” means to be afraid!

This is at times, an uncomfortable and horrifying account of a young boy’s life during the 1960’s – 1980’s while growing up in the city of Hull, England that is biographical in nature. The author begins his story in the first person to distinguish his happy, early childhood years where he lived with the love and safety of his grandparents.

However, as the tale progresses and a darkness enters the boy’s life, the author begins to tell the story in the third person as if to distance himself from his memories and the realities of his transformation into Miedo, a child full of fear.

There are no perfect families

No one has the perfect family. For Miedo, life with his father and step-mother, his two sisters, and a half-sister life is brutal. As a small child, he experiences strange bouts of paranormal activity. At night, alone in his tiny attic room in the house that his family rents, the bed shakes uncontrollably and the ceiling and walls close in upon him. He sees demons that stare at him from the foot of his bed. Terrible nightmares fill his dreams.

Miedo’s terror is real and he reacts to the paranormal experiences with genuine fear. I found it hard to distinguish whether he was imagining these happenings or if he was slowly descending into a type of childhood insanity. Some of the descriptions of what Miedo goes through are just creepy.

The boy has physical issues to deal with also. Sometimes he bleeds from his ears. He has trouble with speech and stumbles and falls quite a bit. School is difficult for him. His father punches him often and demands that he not act ignorant. Miedo’s stepmother Ginger treats him no better. When they are done abusing the boy, there are his two sisters, Liz and Cloe who are happy to step in and abuse him further.

Yet, from all this adversity, Miedo somehow continues to grow. There is a quiet gentleness about him and I wanted to hold this child in my arms and tell him somehow everything was going to be alright.

Recommendation:

This is a dark tale of a life that most people would not be able to rise from. It is a fairly quick read that captured me from the beginning to the end. I read this book in about two nights, driven to find out what was behind the supernatural experiences that plagued poor Miedo.

The answers are not given. Instead, the author leaves the reader with another paranormal experience that shatters Miedo’s existence at the sanctity of his grandparent’s house. Even the love from his grandparents, who once protected the boy now seems shattered.

I found myself left only with more questions and wanting more answers. Miedo and his life haunt me. I can’t wait to read the sequel, “Miedo 2, A Reckoning with Fear.” I am compelled to find out how this story unfolds!

 


Author, Kevin Cooper

Character Believability: 5
Flow and Pace: 5
Reader Engagement: 5
Reader Enrichment: 4.5
Reader Enjoyment: 4
Overall Rate: 4.5

About Kevin Cooper:

Kevin Cooper was born in Hull, East Yorkshire, England in 1963. He moved to the USA in 1985 where he first studied to get a GED in Kentucky. He then obtained a scholarship and went on to study at Western KY University for two years. He transferred some of his credits to Asbury College and obtained a BA in Psychology in 1991. After finishing at Asbury College, he studied at Asbury Theological Seminary for a year before moving to Arizona and enrolled at Grand Canyon University. In 1998, he obtained an M.Ed from Grand Canyon University where he was also awarded a Graduate Fellowship.

Kevin was a substitute teacher for several high school districts in and around Phoenix for over six years. He became a Manager for The Hertz Corporation in 1999-2004. During this time, he also became a lecturer of General Studies at the Metropolitan College of Court Reporting.

In 2004, Kevin returned to England with the dream of becoming a writer. He, however then set his mind to other things and after a few jobs working in security, a call centre and a couple of offices, he managed to get a position working in the NHS where he stayed for almost seven years.

Finally, after having to come out of work to look after his wife, Kevin set his heart to writing again. He began by starting his blog: Kevs-domain.net and has since become an author of three works: Miedo “Afraid” which is a psychological thriller/ horror about a child who experiences a lot of loss and trauma in his life resulting in a lot of paranormal/supernatural incidents. The Devil’s Apology: This is a short story that provides an epic tale of war with God from the Devil’s perspective. Reflections: A book of poems, songs, and muses about love, relationships and life in general.

Make certain to connect with Kevin Cooper through his Twitter @GrtIndieAuthors, and Facebook at Kevin Cooper. His blog: Kev’s Great Indy Authors, and Goodreads.

Thanks for dropping in. Glad to see you all today!

RonovanWrites #Weekly #Haiku #Poetry Prompt #Challenge #63 Stag & Noise

Another week has flown by and it is time for Ronovan’s Weekly Haiku Challenge! His prompt words were stag and noise. I love this fall theme he has going on with the image above. The crimson leaves are refreshing after the greens of summer!

Speaking of fall, this is the time that the deer really start to get into action and begin the “rut.” Wikipedia shares:

“The rut for white-tailed deer (Odocoileus virginianus) usually lasts from 1–3 months in the Northern Hemisphere and may occur most of the year in tropical zones. The rut is the time when white-tailed deer, especially bucks, are more active and less cautious than usual. This makes them easier to hunt, as well as more susceptible to being hit by motor vehicles.[1] The buck has one thing on his mind at this time of the year: to find as many does as he can. He will chase after many does for weeks, barely eating. The rut can take its toll on the bucks: they are usually quite worn out by the end of the breeding season.

Some people[who?] believe that the white-tailed deer rut is also controlled by the lunar phase and that the rut peaks seven days after the second full moon (the rutting moon) after the autumnal equinox on 21 September.”

Male deer in rut – Image credit: Pixabay free photos

Regal stag’s battle –

as deer antlers blast and smash,

a solo doe waits.

Doe, waiting for the winner – Image Credit: Pixabay free images

Thanks for stopping by. I sure enjoyed seeing all of you!

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Meet Hugh’s Views & News-Interview

Meet two of the most glowing stars in our blogging community: Ron, from Ronovan Writes, and Hugh, from Hugh’s Views and News! ❤

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I blog. Amazing discovering isn’t it? Being a blogger you also follow other bloggers. Sometimes you don’t know how you ended up making the acquaintance of someone, yes I can make that joke about myself but no one else can (amnesiac rights), but you are glad you did stumble upon someone. One such person grabbed my attention not only because he liked my attempts at writing, but one day a photograph he posted jumped out at me. No it did not literally leap from the page, at least I don’t think it did. Perhaps he has sort of 3D Mac power. Yes, I am afraid to say that he is one of . . . those people.

Thinking now perhaps it was 3D and knocked the memory out of me. I do have a habit of following it  hitting my head. But I do have the memory that this man…

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Interview – Colleen Chesebro

I know I am blowing my own horn here, but I am so excited to be part of the Felan-ezine. Please check out this site and all the marvelous work these poets, artists, and photographers did! Thanks. ❤

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Now I present to you the lovely Colleen Chesebro.  Her work will be in fēlan’s first issue!

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Please tell us a bit about yourself. 

Colleen M. Chesebro is a writer of poetry, cross-genre fiction, and imaginative nonfiction. Her first fantasy series is currently under production and called, “The Swamp Fairy.” The novel tells the story of Abby Forrester, a 14 year old orphaned girl who finds herself the protector to a community of fairies that live in the swamp near her Aunt’s home in Pensacola, Florida. Through Abby’s journey we learn about friendship, love, and what it truly means to be part of a loving family.  Colleen has included in each chapter a haiku poem especially crafted for special meaning. Colleen lives in the United States with her husband, Ron and her two Pomeranians, Sugar and Spice. You can learn more about Colleen and her creative poetry and stories on her website:

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Mindful Monday – Mindfulness is Awareness

Due to the crazy schedule I have had the last few days and the pending open house for our house sale on Sunday, I will not have a Mindful Monday post for Monday, September 21, 2015. Time constraints have left me breathless.

Please enjoy this Haiku I wrote for your enjoyment:

Have a wonderful week filled with peace, love, and joy! See you next week!

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